Corazon de Swiss

January 10, 2008

I swore to myself I wasn’t going to post about the wedding all the time…

Filed under: All Things Wedding,Bitching — by corazondeswiss @ 8:49 pm

But today was a bad wedding day.  I spoke to the church secretary last week and told her my date and my backup date.  She told me the church was available on both days.  I asked her to have the pastor call me this week.  I emailed him myself on Monday and asked him to call me.  Fast forward to Wednesday (based on the secretary’s word I’ve been calling reception sites and photographers, etc.) I email the church secretary and check to see if I have the right email address for the pastor because I haven’t heard from him. 
His reply:

You had the right e-mail address but sometimes it takes me a while to respond.  I checked the calendar but I am sorry to have to tell you that Nov. 8th is already booked by WELCA.  They will be in the church until at least 2:00pm.  This will not give you much time to decorate if it is an evening wedding.  Do you have any other dates that would work?
I will get you the wedding info packet from secretary and have it for you Sunday.  Then you can look it over and we can tentatively plan our first of three required sessions before you get married. 
I hope this was the information that you were looking for. 

Umm no.  This is not the information I was looking for because the secretary told me I could have the church.  So I write back and ask if there is some reason we can’t decorate during the rehearsal (minus the flowers,etc.) Because Wednesday I booked the photographer for November 8th.  Because I was told I could get married on November 8th.  Of course I FREAK out.  And called my mother.  Who calls the church and speaks to the secretary.  She calls the lady in charge of WELCA.  She calls me and says there should be NO reason I can’t get married on the 8th.  I calm down and call the Pastor myself.  Speak to him and let him know that I really want this date and that there has to be someway to make it work.  He says he’ll talk to the WELCA lady. 
Then I tell him that I want my HS friend to officiate.  He didn’t say no. He said that there was a policy about random people wanting to get married in the church and bringing in their own ministers…
I pointed out that I am not a random person, I’m a long time member.  My friend is not a random person who got ordained on the internet, he’s an ELCA ordained minister.  He said something about council as well…I don’t know.  My mom talked to someone on council who said that it would not be a problem.  I hope not.
He is supposed to contact my friend and speak to him.  Is it any wonder that I hardly ate my lunch today?  

And I promise my next post will not be about the wedding.  Yes Alynda, there will be a website and when I get it done I’ll let you know.   



  1. Getting married is a big to do…you can post about your wedding as much as you like! 🙂

    Comment by Erin — January 10, 2008 @ 9:06 pm |Reply

  2. Ugh. Not hearing back from the people you’re working with is so irritating! I hope the other stages go more smoothly!

    Comment by RA — January 11, 2008 @ 8:58 am |Reply

  3. Hey! I am ELCA, too. Yay Lutherans!

    I hope that they figure out how to accommodate you, because, seriously, unless you are planning some kind of crazy elaborate decor scheme for the church, it should be simple enough to set up. And like the WELCA ladies aren’t going to love oohing and aahing over a bride, right?

    Comment by Laurel — January 11, 2008 @ 10:21 am |Reply

  4. How frustrating! I’ll cross my fingers that everything goes a bit more smoothly for you!

    Comment by alyndabear — January 11, 2008 @ 10:31 am |Reply

  5. Oh goodness… I remember a few similarities from when I was married (and for the record we DID get to have a priest AND a minister marry us after all!).

    I’m wishing you well. Don’t worry – it all works out in the end.

    Comment by meritt — January 25, 2008 @ 10:56 am |Reply

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