Corazon de Swiss

January 19, 2009

No excuse

Filed under: Cheesepuff,Love & Relationships — by corazondeswiss @ 4:51 pm

I have no excuse for not blogging. That’s not true.  I’ve got about a million excuses, but they’re all lame.  I mean, I could play the newlywed card or the house hunting card or the job hunting card, but like I said.  Lame.  Mostly I’m just a lazy trophy wife housewife. 

Really and truly, being married is lots of fun and I am enjoying it immensely.  I’m constantly surprised by my husband (so weird to type those words)- I knew so many things about him, but now, I know so much more!  He has always taken such good care of me, its just different to see that on a daily basis.  It’s amazing to see him tell me he’ll take care of this or that because he knows I’m tired or not feeling well.  He’s so patient with me- I knew the man was patient, but I had no idea exactly how patient until the first 2 days we were married.  I was still totally out of my mind with wedding stress and trying to pack to leave.  He tried to help as much as possible and then stayed out of the way.  Most of all, he said “it’s okay” when I looked at him and told him that I wouldn’t be ready to leave on Monday as originally planned (in tears). 

But don’t worry, it’s not all Sunshine and Rainbows here in the Newlywed household.  The man could drive a person up a wall.  He leaves cabinet doors open, he doesn’t pick up his plate from the table, he’s messy.  I spent the first 2 weeks after we got back from our honeymoon cleaning up 3 years of bachelor grime.  And he gets annoyed when I want to put things away or get new things- he thinks I’m trying to get rid of all his stuff. 

Even so, it’s pretty damn awesome.

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October 16, 2008

So this one week, I totally freaked out.

Filed under: All Things Wedding,Cheesepuff,It's All About Me,Love & Relationships — by corazondeswiss @ 8:08 pm

And then I spent 4 days with my fiance and it got much better.  But first it got a little worse.  Because when I arrived at the airport to get to CP, my bag didn’t make it on the flight with me.  So we waited for it before we went house hunting.  Again.  We put in an offer on a house.  They countered.  We countered.  They countered.  We walked away.  They decided to accept.  But we were already over it.  I have decided to live in CP’s apartment and resume the househunt after the wedding and honeymoon.  This is not my first choice, but a girl’s gotta do what she can manage when she is completely stressed out by her wedding.  And I do mean completely stressed out.
We got a marriage license!  And as of today, we can legally get married.  How cool is that?! 
CP has a wedding band.  I don’t, but for a couple of hours, I thought I did.  Back on the hunt, and narrowed down to 2.  Now I just have to make a decision. 
I leave you with the kind words of my friend who is baking our cakes for the wedding (after I emailed her to apologize for forgetting to cancel our tasting over the weekend.

I would tell you not to stress…but that’s an impossibility at this point.  Just understand that you have been overtaken by hostile alien forces with the sole purpose of turning your brain into soup and your body into a jumbling mixture of stress, exhaustion, extreme (albeit short) energy bursts and emotional outbreaks (some may actually mistake these as spontaneous instances of Tourette’s).  The good news is that they will leave you… and eventually… the nervous tics and twitches will as well…
Someday, I’m going to be myself again!

July 27, 2008

A little bit sentimenal…

Filed under: It's All About Me,Love & Relationships,The Fam — by corazondeswiss @ 2:47 pm

It’s been a busy week or so and I’ve got another one coming up.  Last weekend we gave a baby shower for my cousin and had a great time.  She was so appreciative.  The baby is coming any day now, and I really hope he’ll arrive soon so I can go see him when I am off next Monday!  We used my grandmother’s punch bowl- which is 50+ years old.  I love the punch bowl- the fact that it has survived so many years and that it belonged to my grandmother (who was killed when my mother was about 3).  And we’ve used it for showers for her great-grandchildren and will use it for my bridal showers. 

I’m also feeling a little sentimental because Tuesday would have been my Papa’s 78th birthday.   October will be 6 years since he died, and sometimes, like this week it seems only yesterday.  This week the memorial candles I ordered in honor of our grandparents arrived, appropriately, on Papa’s birthday.  I was hosing off our back porch this morning and thinking how he loved to sit out there when he came to visit and how he would love the newly expanded porch. 

I took this picture about a year before he died and it is one of my favorite pictures of him. 
Happy Birthday Papa!!

May 1, 2008

May flowers

Filed under: All Things Wedding,Cheesepuff,Love & Relationships — by corazondeswiss @ 8:29 pm

I’ve got more pictures.  And wedding stuff to talk about. 

First: There is a lot more to flowers for weddings than I ever thought.  Like hundreds of dollars.  Totalling into the thousand + range.  If that’s not ridiculous, I don’t know what is.  Seriously.  My mouth almost fell open when the florist quoted me $200-$250 for my bouquet ALONE.  Plus $25-$30 more for a toss bouquet.  What is wrong with this picture? I got a lead today on another florist who could be much less than the other three I’ve seen.  But honestly, I’m so tired of meeting with them- I just want to decide and get it over with. 
CP is coming to visit in three weeks for Memorial Day weekend.  (And my birthday is that Saturday, yay!!).  We’ve got to register, look at invitations, possibly meet with the pastor for pre-marital counseling… I’ve got to stop thinking about it now or I’ll get too stressed.  In the meantime, more pictures!

 

April 15, 2008

Pictures…

Filed under: All Things Wedding,Cheesepuff,Love & Relationships — by corazondeswiss @ 8:22 pm

I has pictures…

Consider yourselves bribed.  And I still have more for later this week.  🙂

February 27, 2008

Bad day

Filed under: All Things Wedding,Bitching,Cheesepuff,Love & Relationships,The Fam — by corazondeswiss @ 8:05 pm

I’m having a bad day today.  I need to whine.  Vent.  I don’t want to talk to anyone I know about it.  CP and I are trying to decide where to live after we get married.  I want to live close my family.  He doesn’t live close to my family.  It’s about an 8 hour drive from where he lives to where my family lives.  (Flying is really not an option- would take almost as long as driving and cost more).  The city/area he lives in is not a place I want to live in for a long time.  I don’t want to live there for a short time.  He thinks he needs to stay with his current company for 2 more years.  (This summer will be 3 years he’s worked there.)  I’m not so sure about that, but then again I’m not an engineer and I’ve had 3 jobs as a therapist since I got out of school 4 years ago. 

I don’t want to raise my children there.  I want to raise them in a place similar to where I grew up.  Living close to my family/in the same town would afford us a lot of options as far as childcare/my working.  Living far away would present us with 3 options: I work full time.  I work not at all.  I work weekends when he is not working. 

I’m scared about moving there.  I’ll be giving up my job (which I really enjoy), being close to my family, my friends here.  I’ll be moving to where he lives, near his friends, and his family.  I’ll have him.  I told him that at the very least we will have to have another place to live.  I cannot move into his apartment and his life and have nothing of mine except Frick and Frack.   

I also told him that I won’t go back to work until after the first of the year.  Starting a healthcare job in December with the holidays coming up would be foolish, esp. if we can afford for me not to work.  There are not a lot of holidays in healthcare and the last person hired almost always works them.  Which would mean no way we’d have the chance to see my family during the holidays. 

I cried today talking to him about it.  I’m so scared of the idea of moving there.  I want to be with him and start our life together, but it feels like moving there we’d just be moving me into his life.  Of course when you walk into the house with tear-stained cheeks everyone wants to talk to you about it.  I don’t want to talk about it anymore.  I’ve been stressed about it all week.  I don’t want my family to get upset with him.  As my grandmother once told my aunt- “Don’t bring your hurts with [husband] to me- you’ll forgive him.  I won’t.”  I don’t want to bring this to my family because I don’t want them to have problems with him.

I’m not asking for advice.  Or assvice.  I just need to vent and not vent to my family.  If you feel compelled to tell me something, could you just tell me it’s going be ok and we’ll figure it out.  ‘Cause I’m feeling a little fragile right now. 

January 2, 2008

It’s over…

Filed under: Cheesepuff,Love & Relationships,Ringwatch 2007 — by corazondeswiss @ 6:15 pm

Ringwatch 2007 that is. 

BECAUSE HE PROPOSED!!

I am happy to announce that CP asked me to marry him on December 30th.  And of course I accepted. 

We went to the Morikami Gardens in Delray Beach and walked around.  (CP tells everyone that I forget to tell the part about how he chose it because there were waterfalls…which is a kickback to our first date when we went for a walk in the park to see a fountain at night and it wasn’t flowing even though it had been when he checked earlier. I digress.  Back to my story.) So he suggested we sit down on a bench for a bit.  And we did.  We looked over the lake and we could hear a little boy yelling “Get back here!  Get back here!  If you know what’s good for you you’ll get back here!”
After it quieted down, CP said “You know it’d be good for me if you’d become my wife”, as he was getting down on one knee.  Of course I said yes and he put the most beautiful ring on my hand. 

WE’RE ENGAGED!!!

Things I found out later:
He had called my parents’ on Wednesday and was a little surprised when I answered the phone, so he played it off.  And called on Friday after I had left to see him to ask for their blessing.  He had talked to his parents over Christmas.  He had been shopping for quite some time and hadn’t told a soul until just before he asked me!
When I talked to him on Friday from my hotel, he told me to sleep in Saturday morning and take my time getting there.  (My original plan was to get up early and get going.)  But he had to pick up my ring on Saturday morning!  And he wanted a haircut. 

We’ve had the best time sharing our joy with our family and friends! 

November 28, 2007

Extension

Filed under: Cheesepuff,Love & Relationships,NaBloPoMo — by corazondeswiss @ 10:13 pm

At this very busy of seasons, I’m going to share with you a little something I’ve thought about quite a bit.  As a person in a “helping” profession, I give a lot of myself at work. In school we learn about the “therapeutic use of self”.  We’re taught to put our patients and their needs ahead of our own.  We’re taught to give of ourselves. That often means at the end of the day, I don’t always have a lot left to give.
And the person who suffers that most is CP because he is closer to me than anyone else in the world.  Also, because we are so close I often consider him a part of me.  So, he gets the short end of the stick more often than not.  (And for some reason he loves me anyway).  This also means that sometimes I think I’ve told him things, but I haven’t.  I just figure if I know something, CP knows it- I mean I carry him around in my head and my heart all day long, so why doesn’t he know what I know?  Bless his heart- after almost 5 years, now I tell him to pretend I told him! 
Any of you out there “forget” to tell your significant other things?   

November 18, 2007

Also brought to you by the letter L. For LAZY

Filed under: Cheesepuff,It's All About Me,Love & Relationships,NaBloPoMo — by corazondeswiss @ 10:02 pm

Found this at the state that i am in and decided to use it.  I’ve got a crick in my neck and I”ve been sewing all afternoon/evening. (I had the crick before the sewing.)  I’m hoping it will either a) go away on it’s own or 2) one of the physical therapists at work can work on me in the am.  Because really, what’s the use of knowing a bunch of physical therapists if you can’t get a little cervical work now and then?
Anyway, a little about me and CP:

A Little About Us
The basic facts:

Who is your significant other? CP

How long have you been together? We started dating in 2003Dating/Engaged/Married?  Dating

How old is your S.O.? 26

What’s his/her middle name? Andrew

Who eats more? He does.

Who says “I love you” first?  Depends.

Who weighs more? He does.

Who sings better? I probably sing better, but he makes up his own words to songs to make me laugh.  Especially in church.

Who’s older? Me.

Who’s smarter? We’re both smart, but I couldn’t be an engineer, and he couldn’t be an O.T.

Whose temper is worse? I’m sure the honor belongs to me.  Although he does get annoyed from time to time.

Who does the laundry? We both do because we don’t live together.

Who does the dishes? We both do because we don’t live together.

Who sleeps on the right side of the bed? That’s an issue still under discussion.

Whose feet are bigger? His.  He wears a 13.  I wear a 5-6.

Who’s better with the computer? He can actually write code and programs. 

Who mows the lawn? He will.  I have never mowed the lawn.  Ever.  Not planning on it.

Who pays the bills? We both do.

Who cooks dinner? Both of us.

Who drives when you are together? Mostly he does, but I like for him to.

Who pays when you go out to dinner? Since he got his job, he does.

Who’s the most stubborn? Me me me.

Who is the first one to admit when they’re wrong? CP. I’ve never been wrong.

Whose parents do you see more? Mine.

Who named your dog? We don’t have a dog.  I have cats and I named them.

Who kisses who first? Depends.

Who asked who out? I can’t remember!

Who’s more sensitive? I think its me.

Who’s taller? He is.

Who has more friends? I don’t know. 

Who has more siblings? I do. He’s an only child and I have one brother and one sister.

Who wears the pants in the relationship? I think its pretty close to equal.

November 6, 2007

This one time, on MySpace, my childhood best friend found me…

Filed under: Love & Relationships,NaBloPoMo — by corazondeswiss @ 8:20 pm

Really.  I told you awhile ago I had a story to share about that…and now that NaBloPoMo is here and I need material to fill up the next 24 days, here is the story.  When I was 7 years old, my dad got a promotion at work, which also involved a transfer to a new town across the state.  But the housing market was bad and our house didn’t sell for a whole year.  So my dad rented a room in the new town and commuted home on his 2 days off.  And my mom worked 40 hours a week and raised 2 kids and was pregnant with my sister.  But I digress. 
In kindergarten, I met my best friend at school, TabbyCat.  TabbyCat had the longest brown hair and she wore it styled differently every day.  We had the same kindergarten and 2nd grade teachers.  I was devastated when our house sold and we actually had to move.  That year for Christmas I was given a Cabbage Patch Cornsilk doll.  She had long brown hair and brown eyes, just like my very best friend TabbyCat. And she had a name I didn’t like…Norma something or other.  So of course, I renamed her after my very best friend.
Not long ago I got an email on MySpace from someone saying “I think I found you” and it was from TabbyCat.  I was SO excited.  I had always wondered what happened to her.  And missed her.  So we connected on the phone for the first time in 20 years.  And in some ways, she sounds the same. And we still have so much in common.  It was as though those 20 years fell away and I was transported to be back with her.  She told me how sad she was when I moved and she cried for a week.  And her parents bought her a Cabbage Patch Cornsilk doll and she named it after me! (Seriously, I got goosebumps when she told me that- because I hadn’t yet told her about my doll) In an even more interesting twist- she lives not far from where I worked in SoFl. Unfortunately we didn’t reconnect until I had left SoFl, but someday I’ll get back and we’ll see each other again.  Until then, we’ve got email and phone calls.  Pretty neat, though isn’t it?

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